By Mohammad Abdus Samad
Milli Gazette Online
Of late a tendency has developed in our society that an employed boy is always interested in marrying an employed girl and vice versa.
I mean the employed boy and girl who have sources of income whether it be through government service, business or any other profession. The objective behind this kind of marriage is to better their economic condition through marriage. No one seems bothered about an unemployed boy or girl who crosses marriageable age because of financial hardships. It gradually raises the number of unmarried boys and girls in society and generates frustration in their lives. As a result some of them are found engaging themselves in some evil and anti-social activities, thus giving rise to social problems like adultery, rape, prostitution, abortion and homosexuality which cause the spread of some dreaded diseases like AIDs and gonorrhea among people.
In India unemployment is a burning problem and the problem of unmarried boys and girls only is next to it. Sooner this problem is solved, the better it will be for the health of our society.
If an employed boy marries an unemployed girl and if an employed girl marries an unemployed boy considering the health of our society or on humanitarian ground, they and the family dependent on them would be economically benefited. It would, to some extent, assuage the problem of marriageable boys and girls and help in checking the sexual anarchy and the diseases resulting from it in our society. What is your loss if a weak person gets economically established in the world by your help. In fact the helping attitude nurtured in one’s mind contributes towards the formation of an ideal society.
In Islam, the main objective of marriage is to create and promote the spirit, sentimental union and spiritual love and peace between husband and wife and thereby preserve the human species on this planet. The holy Qur’an announces: "Allah has created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy in the hearts between you (husband and wife)” (30: 21). But if a couple’s marriage decision is based on economic interests or if an employed boy marries an unemployed girl for dowry (which is prohibited in Islam) or if the husband and wife are required to stay separately in distant places for the cause of service or economic interest, they would be able to realise the very objective of marriage, resulting in an unhappy conjugal life in practice.
The writer is a Senior Lecturer
at P.B. College Gauripur (Assam)
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